♪ ♪
[wind blowing]
[wind chime ringing]
- What happens if fiction continues to be fiction?
Can you deal with that?
- I can't deal with that.
I can't. - No?
How about things that you know are fiction?
What about things like Cinderella or Snow White?
- No, no. What I'm trying to say is that, um, that, um,
can I fall in love with my own imagination?
- Well, we've gotta be really careful
when we deal with what's real and what's fiction.
- I don't-I don't even know what's real or not.
- I know. [chuckles]
That's the problem.
It's not very cold out.
- It's not very cold out? - Nope. Not too bad.
[birds chirping]
[ambient music]
♪♪
- "All the world's a stage
"and men and women are merely players.
"They're the exits and the entrances,
and each man in his life plays many parts."
♪ You can take what you can get ♪
♪ I'll forgive but I'll forget ♪
♪ ♪
[traffic noise]
- Once this guy said to me,
"Man, if I were you, I'd probably kill myself."
You know, just by seeing me
and my body in a wheelchair,
he thought that I must be miserable.
And, um, you know, I think that it's probably,
um, a pretty common assumption.
And so what body you're in
has everything to do with your perspective of the world.
♪ You wake up and you can't pretend ♪
♪ The dream was just a dream again ♪
♪ Won't you dry your eyes? ♪
♪ ♪
♪ But it doesn't matter anymore ♪
♪ Do just what you did before ♪
♪ Until you realize the words go la, la, la, la, la ♪
- Push the button!
- You can push.
- It was not a normal mother-son relationship ever.
- Ow!
- Jack, do you wanna hear the volume?
[Jack crying]
It was overwhelming.
I didn't want it.
♪ ♪
I did not want it.
♪ You can dip your brain in joy ♪
♪ ♪
♪ Once we understand ♪
♪ No one understands at all ♪
♪ Singing la, la, la, la, la ♪
♪ ♪
[song fades out]
[distant traffic noise]
- I think in some ways, I wrote the book
to understand what happened.
And maybe I wrote it to forgive my parents.
I think my mother imagined that her first-born son
would be part of the real mainstream,
the kind of kid who was popular at school,
athletic, at ease in the world,
and basically quite conventional.
And instead, she got me.
[soft, dramatic music]
♪♪
When I was growing up, I had a lot of weird hang-ups.
I mean, I refused to wear blue jeans.
I refused to listen to rock music of any kind.
I was obsessed with Emily Dickinson's
poems of anguish,
and told my friends the plots of operas.
I was a weirdo.
And, you know, my parents were really good.
My mom, in particular.
She would sort of get on board
with the things that interested me...
...even when they were a little bit strange.
I feel like there was a lot of leeway for me to be...
...different in all kinds of ways...
...but my parents really didn't want to have a gay son...
...and I thought if I tell them I'm gay,
they're going to be brutally disappointed.
And I told them, and they were.
It was a catastrophe.
My mother sort of lectured me about
what a sad and lonely life it would be,
and I mentioned some gay family friends
and I said that they'd done all right,
and my mother said,
"If I had thought that inviting them into our house
"was gonna make you think that was an acceptable way of life,
they would never have crossed the threshold."
♪ ♪
For many years after that, I was...
...angry, I was ambivalent.
I wanted to understand
why my parents dealt with me the way they did.
I wanted to see how other families managed it.
I thought I don't wanna know just about families
of gay people.
I wanted to look as widely as I could.
I set out to write Far From the Tree,
which was my attempt to investigate
how families go about
dealing with children who are very different from them.
I spent 10 years researching and writing this book.
- We'll look at things like dwarfism,
an autistic child,
a child who commits a crime.
It's a tough thing sometimes for a parent to reconcile with.
- There are some children who were born with an identity
or a way of being, or a set of priorities
that are completely foreign to his or her parents.
The stories I heard felt so alien at the beginning,
but bit by bit, they came to feel very real
and very intimate to me.
♪ ♪
And I realized that in telling these stories,
I was investigating the very nature of family itself.
♪ ♪
[crow cawing]
- You know what?
This actually looks very modernistic.
This could be by Picasso. - Oh, yeah.
- Doesn't that look very modern?
And look at this.
- Looks like Turn the World Around.
- Turn the-- It looks like what?
- Turn the World Around. Like Harry Belafonte stuff.
- Yes. Yes, indeed, it does.
I think that's where they got their inspiration
for those masks.
- Yeah.
- Ooh.
[both giggle]
[toy squeaks] - Oh! - Ooh!
[both laugh]
[Emily] - Where is everybody?
We are the last people on the planet.
Hello!
[Jason chuckles]
When Jason was born,
the doctor said,
"What we do with children like this
is we send them away before an attachment is formed."
I mean, this is so ludicrous
that an obstetrician doesn't understand
that you have spent nine months forming an attachment.
What did they think this was?
[crickets chirping]
All right, my love. I had a wonderful time.
Be good.
- Love you. - Love you, honey.
Okay. Talk to you soon.
- Okay.
Oops.
- You got it?
Come here. Give it here.
Let me get you.
Yeah?
- I was born with Down Syndrome.
This is what we called "retarded."
We don't want to say that word because it's banned from...
...it was banned from conversation.
Down syndrome is a chromosomal mishap.
It's-it's an extra chromosome.
Never ever goes away.
[quiet nursery music]
- Hi!
- The doctors told us, "Your child is a Mongoloid.
"He's not gonna walk. He's not gonna talk.
He's not gonna read. He's not gonna write."
And I was frightened.
[toy jingling]
It was as if Jason had this rubber stamp,
this great black rubber stamp
with the word "retarded" over his forehead.
- Jason. - Jason.
- Jason, would you put your hands on your head for Daddy?
[both] - Yay!
- But Charles and I decided that you don't write off
a person because of a label that he carries.
That Jason was a person who could learn.
- Jason, what does that say?
- Over.
- Okay. What does this say?
- Under.
- What does this say?
- Across.
- The point that I'm driving at
is that when you walk out of here today
and somebody says to you, "Retarded people,
Down syndrome people, they'll never learn to read,
they'll sit against the wall and just grow big."
and so forth and so on.
And you could sort of give the lie to it
and won't take the opportunity at any time to...
...come and talk to people.
As you get to know them,
you realize that friendship and warmth
are things that they respond to.
[applause]
- As Jason started accomplishing things...
- When you have four bagels
and you take away one bagel...
- Three.
- We were so excited.
It was such a miracle.
- Hey, you know what? Can you count to 10 in Spanish?
- Okay. [counting in Spanish]
- He walked, he talked,
and he did all kinds of things
that he was not supposed to do.
- What does it mean to be retarded?
Do they think like we do?
Do they have the same feelings?
And now I'd like you to meet
Emily and Charles Kingsley, Jason's parents.
- He is now reading on a second-grade level.
The child they told us to junk and throw away
is doing second-grade reading, first-grade math.
And he became a bit of a celebrity.
[TV Announcer] - Meet Jason Kingsley.
You might think Down syndrome hardly gets in his way.
- I was studying sound, electricity, and energy.
- I literally thought, "Well, this is a piece of cake.
"This is-this is really- this is really thrilling,
and they must have been just plain wrong."
[distant phone ringing]
- Hi, Jason. - Hi.
- I worked here about 18 years.
I deliver the mail and deliver the packages.
When I work here,
I mostly work independently.
It keeps me learning.
It keeps me on my toes.
[phone ringing]
I think slowly,
but I'm smart in my own way.
I'm mostly with emotions.
I mean, sometimes I'm happy.
Sometimes I'm a little bit sad.
- You have a great weekend, okay?
- Okay. - See you next time.
- Take care.
- Bye. - Bye.
Basically, I'm just a normal guy.
- Here we go.
- I live with Yaniv...
...and Raymond.
[gentle music]
♪♪
We are The Three Musketeers.
And I like my life now
until something better happens.
- All right.
- You guys good? - Yeah, we're good.
Let's eat.
[Yaniv] I do like Jason...
...as a roommate,
As a friend and musketeer.
But he doesn't know how to-- how to juggle between...
...reality and fantasy.
[wind chimes jingling]
[Jason] - I painted my room blue.
I've got all blue clothes.
I have a costume.
I wear this, and I wear these pants...
...and I wear this...
...as Queen Elsa.
[music on TV]
♪♪
[Yaniv] - He's obsessed with Frozen,
and it gets me crazy all the time.
That's his personality.
[on TV] - ♪ Let them in, don't let them see ♪
♪ Be the good girl you always have to be ♪
- When I was a kid.
The world revolved around me.
And I was close-minded
until Elsa came and let it go.
- ♪ Let it go, let it go ♪
- She opened my heart.
- ♪ Let it go, let it go ♪
I want to go on a trip to Norway.
Because I know that she's there.
And it feels like that I fell in love with her.
[on TV] - ♪ The cold never bothered me anyway ♪
- "The cold never bothered me anyway"
That makes me feel happy. That part.
I always do that.
[Emily] - It has sort of taken over his life,
and it's very difficult
to talk any kind of...
...commonsense to him about it.
But if it gives him comfort and...
What are you gonna do?
[crowd singing] - ♪ Happy birthday to you ♪
♪ Happy birthday to you ♪
♪ Happy birthday, dear Jason ♪
♪ Happy birthday to you ♪
[applause]
[crowd cheering]
[indistinct chatter]
- More blue shirts.
- This is because you've been wearing
your blue clothes a lot.
So, I figured you could use some fresh ones.
- Um, um, I have this stuff already.
I've got already um, um, blue clothes
already color-coordinated.
- Mm-hmm. Yep.
It was letting go of a dream
when I realized that Jason was gonna be who he is.
We worked so hard and he worked so hard to...
...develop so many skills.
- All for one, and one for all.
[laughter]
- He was bright, and he is bright.
And I see him as sort of falling into a lazy,
unchallenging life mode which could stay that way
for years and years and years and years.
And that saddens me.
But, you know, I have to realize
that I am dealing with a child who has a disability.
There are certain limitations that are just built in.
Somebody was asking me today how you feel about
the part of your life when you were so famous,
and you were going around giving speeches
and being a celebrity
as you were showing so many people
what a person with Down syndrome was capable of
and how much you could do.
- I see things now in a different angle,
and I can't go back to who I was.
- Well, do you think that people still look up to you now
and still think that you are somebody to admire?
- No.
[ambient music]
♪♪
[distant chatter]
[distant traffic noise]
[Andrew] - It wasn't until I tried to change who I was
and tried as hard as I possibly could
that I realized that who I was wasn't changeable.
When I was growing up, I'd always been told
nothing matters more than having a family,
and my mother said to me,
"You would be a wonderful father,
and if you make this choice,
you aren't going to have a family,
and I am not going to have any grandchildren."
[distant traffic noise]
And of course, it was then seen by lots of people
as a choice.
[somber music]
♪♪
It wasn't just a different way to be.
It was understood to be a sin and an illness.
Something that was treatable, and it was curable.
And I thought what I have to do
is to get married and have children.
[quiet chatter]
And I thought to myself, how can I get to the point
at which I'm physically capable of doing that.
I said to myself, "I need to change myself",
and I can remember getting copies of Playboy magazine
and trying to sit with them and stare at those women
and trying to get myself to be attracted to them.
And then I read an ad
for something called sexual surrogacy therapy.
And I went to this weird office on 47th Street
and it was this set-up in which there were these people
who you were encouraged to call, "doctors",
and they would sit and talk to you for a little while,
and then you went into another room
with these women you were supposed to call, "surrogates",
and with whom you actually went through sexual exercises.
So, I went through that therapy for months
with those surrogates.
You know, it sort of worked
because I had been terrified
at the idea of having sex with women,
and after that, I wasn't so terrified by it.
But, boy, I was torturing myself.
Taking myself down to that office.
The indignity of the exercises.
All of that. But most of all...
...most of all, it was that belief that...
...it wasn't okay to be who I was,
and that I had to torture myself
to try to be someone else.
[light music] ♪♪
[Jack's father] - There's our doctor.
Okay. Ready? Gotta do more pushin'.
[baby crying]
- There's your man.
[Jacks mother] - Hello.
- All the equipment and everything.
[Jack's father] - He's got all the parts.
[child giggling]
[Jack's father] Oh, yeah.
Jack, Jack, Jack, Jack.
Hey, yellow hood.
Hi, buddy boy. - It's a duck.
[all together] - ♪ Happy birthday, dear Jack ♪
[laughter]
[Jack's father] - Jack was just such a happy,
crazy little guy
for the first year and a half, two years.
[Man] Hey, big boy!
And to look at those videos now
and to see that,
and then go, "Wow, that's gone,
that's never coming back."
It's hard.
[Jack's mother] - Jack wants to go for a wagon ride.
Bye-bye! Wave, Jackie!
[Jack's mother] I remember we were outside one day,
and this giant jumbo jet flew overhead.
Jackie!
And I'm like, "Jack, look at the plane."
He didn't look.
- Hey, Jackie, can you wave bye-bye?
No. - He can say bye...
[Jack's mother] - He wasn't using words.
Jack. Jackie!
[blows raspberries]
You know, I thought maybe it was a hearing thing.
Good morning. - Hey, Jackie.
Hi, Jackie. Merry Christmas.
[Jack's mother] - And finally, a psychologist came.
- Show me the chair.
Touch your nose.
[Jack's mother] - That was in January. And by July, we knew...
...he had autism.
- Touch your shoulders.
Touch your shoulders.
- I watched him, and, you know, they'd ask him
to point at the yellow duck and he couldn't do it.
So I thought, "Wow, he...
...he can't even point to a picture."
[family singing] - ♪ Happy birthday to you ♪
♪ Happy birthday to you ♪
- And because he never spoke to us,
I just assumed that he was impaired...
...and that he couldn't understand us.
[Jack's father] - Give a kiss for Mommy.
[Jack's mother] - That he had no idea what was going on.
You have to sit in your chair.
Don't tape this.
Wave to Daddy.
- Hey, buddy. - Wave.
- Can you wave? Maybe not.
- And I researched everything,
and we were of the mentality
we're going to do everything we can.
[sniffles] So, we did.
- Train coming.
- Whoa!
[Jack's father] - If there was anything out there, we jumped on it.
- Robot!
[light music]
Robot!
- And we did music therapy
where they're playing Mozart
and while they're doing physical therapy.
[Jack's mother] - We did allergy testing.
Saw a naturopath.
Chiropractor.
He was eating a gluten-free, dairy-free diet,
so I was having to shop at specialty stores.
- And he had hyperbaric oxygen therapy
where you go and sit in
a high-pressure oxygen tank with a--
He's got like, a spaceman hood on.
We were doing homeopathy at the time
with a group out in Texas.
- Of course, he wouldn't take pills at that time,
so we had to put it in this awful little slurry
and get it into him and mix it with juice,
and it was just real time-consuming
and horrifically expensive.
- Here it is! Who is it?
[Jack's father] - And we spent years on speech therapy.
We thought that he should talk.
We talk, so he needs to learn how to talk.
[Jack screams]
But he was so angry and so frustrated.
Nothing worked.
[Jack's mother] - As he got older, it became
scratching and pinching.
Have a seat.
And he would routinely hit me.
And the more you touch your nose...
And I was angry with him when he would attack us.
It's hard not to take it personally.
Have a seat, Jack.
And I didn't know how to help him.
And I thought, "Oh my God, this is our life."
[Jack growling]
[Jack's mother] I blamed it on everything.
I blamed it on the medicine that I was on
when I was pregnant.
I blamed it on the bed rest.
I blamed it on my health,
like, maybe I wasn't as healthy as I could have been
when I was pregnant with him.
I blamed myself for all of it.
Like I caused it.
- The sun gives us heat.
H-E-A-T, "heat."
[Jack's father] - So, in Austin, we walk into a room
and this short little lady walks in,
and doesn't really talk to us,
and then, she just started talking to Jack.
- Heat.
Or cold. C-O-L-D, "cold."
Heat or cold?
Yes.
Heat.
The sun gives us heat.
[Jack's father] - And it was four days.
She had a stack of paper and a couple of pencils.
And she had templates with letters cut out,
and three of them,
and she showed him how to take the pencil
and point to the letter.
So, she kind of walked him through the first couple.
- You're going to find it.
F-A-B-C-D-E.
- And then she started asking questions,
and then she would answer. She'd say the word.
She'd write the word,
and then she'd get him to spell it.
We're thinking, okay, this-this is... this is good.
Almost a parlor trick, but that's fine.
[pensive music] ♪♪
[Jack's mother] - Then she started to ask more abstract questions.
- This Thanksgiving. Tell me anything about it.
"J" to "O".
[Jack's mother] - It was a very tedious, long process.
"M".
"A". Oh, M-A-S-H.
"Mash potatoes," yeah.
What about the pumpkin pie?
"N"
Oh, you don't like the pumpkin pie?
You're not quite fond of it? Okay.
Enough with pumpkin pie.
- We were off and running,
asking him all kinds of questions about, you know.
What-- Do you like sports?
What's your favorite sport?
And he wanted a blue basketball.
- Basketball would be a very good idea.
[Jack's father] - Now she got our attention.
Then she said, "Jack just can't control his body,
but you've got to keep going.
You have to just talk to him and you've got to ignore this.
This is him. His body has taken over.
You've just got to work through it."
[Jack crying out]
You know, toward the end of the week,
he was exhausted.
He was having a huge tantrum. Huge.
And she was saying, "What's the matter, Jack?
Let's talk about it. What's the matter?"
- Now, you tell me.
Any word.
[Jack's mother] - And through his rage, he started spelling letters
with the stencils.
[hopeful music] ♪♪
[Jack crying out]
He typed out,
"I am trying, and I am really smart."
And then, Jack was perfectly quiet.
He was like, "Oh, I finally got it out
after all these years."
- And that was...
That was-that was the moment where I just went,
"My God, he's in there!"
- I couldn't believe it.
It was like I was meeting him for the first time.
Like...
...oh my gosh, you're real?
[ambient music]
♪♪
[smacking mailboxes]
[computer voice] - I can hear it better than lots of people.
But I am sensitive to many noises
that most people can't really hear.
It sounds like a crazy, very loud combination
of buzzing and voices.
[clanging]
- It's got a nice tone to it.
Hey, that's a pretty disappointing one.
These plastic ones aren't so good.
They don't make much noise.
[computer voice] - I am Jack Allnut.
I am 13.
I don't talk.
I type.
I...
...try...
...to...
...talk.
[anguished moaning]
[computer voice] I try to talk.
I can't. It is too hard.
[girls giggling]
- And I'm like, what were you eating?
What were you eating? Repeat it.
[indistinct chatter]
- I picked up Italian food. I forgot the pizza.
I knew I was in trouble. I turned around,
and I saw that light go off behind me...
[indistinct chatter]
[Jack's mother] - It's definitely easier for us...
...but I'm not living in his body.
I don't go through what he goes through every day.
He still will pinch and scratch when he's frustrated.
- That's your water right over there. See it?
That's for you. And you'll be able to get...
Then you can tell me what's bothering you.
Can you sit down?
But I can communicate with him.
As a mom, that's all I needed.
I just needed to know what's going on inside your head.
[computer voice] - I... want...
I want lots of cookies.
[Jack's mother chuckles]
- You had, like...
- You had that huge rice bar. - You had an Oreo and...
- I know how that is. You know what?
I'll definitely let you have one for dinner.
[Woman] - So, Jack, why do you wear ear buds all the time?
[Jack moans]
[computer voice] - They are noise-canceling.
- Can I ask you another question, Jack?
- Can she ask you another question, Jack?
Yeah? Uh-huh.
You've got to tell your story.
[Jack moans]
Mh-hmm.
Can you do one more question?
[Jack moaning]
He said yes.
[Woman] - He said yes?
- Mh-hmm. - Okay.
Um, can you describe what it feels like
for you to not be able to talk?
[Jack softly moaning]
[computer voice] - H-E...
- Keep going.
You're doing great.
[computer voice] - E-E-L.
- You're doing great. Awesome.
[computer voice] - I-N-G.
Feeling like...
- The feeling is like...
[computer voice] - A-A-T...
- Mh-hmm.
[computer voice] - I-G...
- Keep going. Great.
[computer voice] - E.
- Good.
- R. - Mh-hmm. Keep going.
[computer voice] - Tiger.
I-M-A...
- Great - A...
A...
C-A...
- Look-look right at that letter. so you get it right.
[computer voice] - G-E dot.
The feeling is like a tiger in a cage.
[ambient music] [children playing]
- How's it going? Hey, shut the gate.
[laughs]
And you do the lock.
♪ ♪
Tell me about your day.
[indistinct chatter]
[Man] - All right, guys, listen.
Let's talk about football real quick.
Share the ball today.
Make sure everybody's getting passes.
Know who your center is.
Know who your quarterback is.
You're going down and out towards the out-of-bounds line.
That's a good pattern.
[children playing, shouting]
[Man] - Come on, man.
On a day-to-day basis, I'm his facilitator.
[indistinct chatter]
Keep-keep working. Keep working.
Okay.
So, I just help him type
and help him with anything else he needs throughout the day.
[chattering, shouting]
[Jack's computer voice] - Boys in my school,
they say mean things.
- Do you think he knows?
- Does he know what? - That their filming him.
- Yeah, he knows they're filming him.
Does he know they're filming him?
You've seen him talk. He types.
Why would he not know?
- 'Cause he's autistic.
- He knows everything that y'all know.
Did y'all get straight A's last semester?
- I got 2 B's. - He got straight A's.
[bright music]
♪♪
[indistinct chatter]
♪ ♪
- For a long time, I'd thought that being gay
was something you could make the best of,
but that gay relationships were in some basic way
lesser than straight relationships.
[pensive music] ♪♪
I had realized that I couldn't fix the fact that I was gay,
but I still regretted it.
And there was a piece of me that felt broken,
and the idea that you could accept or even celebrate
the forms of your brokenness
didn't come to me until a great deal later
when the world around me changed.
[crowd] - Gay rights!
- Two, four, six, eight, God does not discriminate!
[cheering]
- The shift that has taken place
over the course of the last 40 years or so
has been of a scale that is almost unimaginable.
And I became fascinated by the process
through which that happened.
How did we get from there to here,
and how did something that was understood to be an illness
come, instead, to be an identity?
And that was what drove my investigation.
And having lived to see my supposed defect
come to be celebrated.
I wondered whether defectiveness itself
might be all a matter of perspective,
and if it's possible for the illness of homosexuality
to turn into the identity of gayness,
and what other instances
might the world's point of view change?
How do we decide
what to cure and what to celebrate?
[seagulls calling]
[chatter]
[Man] - Hey, I know you! You're on TV!
[laughter]
[Woman] - Big fan, big fan!
[Man] - I am, too!
[Loini] - I'm 23.
But I guess, in a way, I don't feel like an adult.
My brother and sister, they're very protective,
but they don't know what it's like to be me.
They don't really quite understand
as much as they think they do.
[vacuum humming]
- I come home every day at lunch
just to check up on her,
um, because I know that she gets bored.
She gets depressed sometimes.
She wants to go to work.
She wants to drive a car,
but I can't afford a special car for her.
- I would like to, you know, go out more...
...travel maybe.
You know, maybe someday have a boyfriend.
Never dated.
Nope.
Still single.
[crickets chirping]
[Loini's mother] - So, do you want any make-up?
Make you look like...
- I'm fine.
- Don't be mean.
What pants are you wearing?
All right.
They're clean? - Yes, Mom.
You're smelling my pants. That's gross!
- Just checking to make sure. - They're clean.
- Okay. Iron your hair?
- No, I'm not ironing my hair.
- Curling? - No.
- You want me to curl it?
- No.
- I can curl it.
You'll have curls. - I don't want to.
- This is a lot of work.
- That's why I said, "no", but you didn't listen.
Growing up...
...I never really knew that people like me
existed in the world.
I saw them on TV,
but I've never met any up close or in person.
So, I'm curious...
Wondering...
...is there anybody out there like me?
[light hopeful music]
♪♪
♪ ♪
[indistinct chatter]
- Hi. - Hi.
[chatter]
[indistinct chatter]
- Hi. We're here to register.
[Woman] - Register? All right.
- It is your first time. Awesome.
That's exciting.
Let's see what you signed up for.
Small tee shirt, a group photo,
and two trivia night tickets.
And are you entering the fashion show?
- Uh, no.
- Oh, you should. It's so much fun.
It'll be a great way to meet other people
around your age, too.
♪ ♪
[Female announcer] - Who's excited for a great show tonight?
[cheers, applause]
[Announcer] Miss Stephanie Brandon.
Jasmine!
[upbeat music]
♪♪
Next we have Michelle Crowe.
And now we have Christian!
Next we have Loini and Maddie!
[crowd cheering]
♪ ♪
- All right, girls, high five!
Whoa, missed that five!
Got mine! You guys did it!
You guys look great!
You're so awesome.
[Loini] - I met my friend Mads...
...and she's my age, a little bit younger,
but she's in the same boat as I am.
- Oh, my gosh!
- I'm a-I'm usually a three.
[giggling]
- I have toe rings and they fit perfectly.
[chatter]
[Loini] - It was wonderful finding someone who's like you.
[chatter]
It's awesome. [giggles]
I found my first friend who could understand me.
So...
...it felt great.
[chatter]
- There is no tiredness right now.
[indistinct chatter]
[pensive music]
♪♪
[Man] - If you're a dwarf,
it doesn't matter what you do.
Everybody is probing you.
Everybody is looking at you,
making a judgment about you.
Oscar Wilde said a person's real life
is often the life he cannot lead,
and I think when you come to a place like this
for little people, you get to lead the life
you were born to lead.
You don't necessarily get to lead that life
once you step away from these walls.
[pensive music]
♪♪
I think people come to these meetings to be validated.
I think people come to these meetings to be heard.
I think they come to be seen.
And then I think they come to disappear.
[upbeat dance music]
♪ ♪
[music fades out]
[rain pattering]
[group chattering]
- ...To make the message broader
and more complete...
[indistinct chatter]
- We want to talk about next steps going forward,
and what they want from us
is for us to be comfortable with what they're doing,
and specifically, these drug treatments
for people with achondroplasia.
And that really kind of sent this message
that created this visceral reaction
within some of our membership.
- We are the only ones that can advocate for ourselves
and let people know
that difference in the genetic world is valuable,
and we have built a community that thrives,
and saying we know how you want to perceive us,
but we want you to know
there's this other alternative.
I think this drug is going to profoundly change things,
and it was kind of an idyllic world.
And we just had dwarf pride that we were trying to manifest,
and we finally got there.
Like, we got pretty close.
Like, where we really felt as a community
pretty good about ourselves,
and then this comes up
and just throws everything on its ear,
and it's a-- it's a brave new world.
- I feel like they present something to the media
and then we might say what we say
and then it's like, "Oh, isn't that sweet?"
Personally, I'm very against the idea
that someone is researching
to find a cure for my type of dwarfism.
- ...is that it's all about, oh...
- It's the same message, every day our whole lives
that there's something wrong with you
and we need to fix it.
I don't think I need to be fixed.
[people chattering]
Watch this. Watch, watch.
Bah! - Oh!
[laughter]
Hi.
How was your meeting?
- Good. - That's good.
Hey. - Hi, there.
- How's it goin'? - Good.
- You got your new shirt. - I'm wearin' my new shirt.
Figured I'd get away with it.
Tyrion Lannister, right?
[Leah] - Joe and I met back in the days of MySpace.
I had seen his MySpace page,
and I read everything he wrote on there,
and he didn't just write "My name's Joe."
He wrote, like, his entire political beliefs
about every topic that you can imagine.
So, I'm reading it one night and I was like,
"Holy smokes, this guy is fascinating",
and I made, like, this mental note,
I'm gonna meet him.
Like, that was all there was to it.
I want to meet this guy.
[ambient music] ♪♪
So, I knew I was interested in him immediately.
And then, kind of took us a while.
It took us two years before we got serious.
- Where's the light?
Ah-ha!
[Leah] - We dated for four years, and then we got married.
- No? Okay. No hat?
- You should take your hat off for tonight. - Okay.
♪ ♪
[speaking indistinctly]
♪ ♪
[Woman on TV] - ...Perhaps a shower or thunderstorm.
High of 87 degrees.
Thursday will be very steamy.
A high of 92 and partly sunny,
but also some scattered showers and thunderstorms...
[Leah] - I had dated some average-height people
and tried to stay open-minded about it,
but I just found that they didn't get me,
and I don't know that there's anyone that gets me
the way he does.
I love his dwarfism.
That's something that we say, like, "I liked your ism."
- Coffee improves my quality of life.
- Yeah.
You know, there are certain characteristics involved
with every type of dwarfism,
and for achondroplasia, it's having bigger hips.
And so Joe will walk up to me in a public space
and whisper in my ear, "I liked your ism,"
meaning he likes my ass.
[giggling]
- I like big butts and I cannot lie.
[relaxed music]
♪♪
[Joe] - I think there is this cultural understanding
that when you see people like me,
the core of the experience is negative.
And when people have very low expectations, it's--
It's surprising to them when I indicate somehow
that I'm not suffering.
♪ ♪
And here is the dwarf in his natural habitat.
[both laughing]
He is taking his afternoon meal.
[laughter]
♪ ♪
Hi, Gram!
How's everything?
- I'm fine. How are you?
- I'm all right.
You look good, Gram.
- You look great yourself.
- Thank you.
[easygoing music] ♪♪
- If I didn't know better,
I'd think you were up to no good.
You've been practicing. You have, haven't you?
[laughs] - I have not!
[Joe's mother] - Are you making presentations?
- In Houston, it's gonna be on disability,
environmentalism, and gender.
[Joe's mother] - Well, that's the newest thing now, right?
- I don't think gender is new. It's been around a while.
[Joe's father] - That's not what she's talking about, Joseph.
[laughter]
- Don't they-- Isn't that--
[Joe] - You talking about transgender?
- Yeah. - That's--Well--
- That's not the same?
[Joe] - Gender is just gender in general, right?
Transgender is one variation on that.
[Joe's father] - We're very proud of him.
I mean, he's got a nice job, a nice wife, and his Phd.
- Don't even ask me what he teaches
because it's over my head.
But oh, what does he teach?
- Philosophy of some sort.
[laughter]
- "Most people seem to take it for granted
"that disability is a bad thing,
"and it's openly endorsed by many philosophers,
"bioethicists, and public intellectuals
"who favor the reduction or elimination
of disability from human experience."
"These differences, if visible or known,
"will often play a subtle or not-so-subtle role
"in shaping the character
of one's interactions with others."
- So, um,
I understand that you are interested
in achieving a pregnancy.
- Yes! Sounds good to me. - Okay!
- First, I want you to tell me...
how old are you?
- 34. - 34.
- Do you smoke?
- No.
- Drink? - No.
- And how many times have you been pregnant?
- Once.
- Okay. Tell me about that last pregnancy.
- It was a year ago almost exactly.
We miscarried at seven weeks.
- Okay.
So, was there an ultrasound done?
- They diagnosed the miscarriage
with an ultrasound. Yeah.
[Doctor] - Okay.
An ultrasound is what you need done between
11 and 14 weeks.
That's where we offer every pregnant patient
a risk assessment for genetic abnormalities.
[Joe] - You know, whether or not the baby will be born
with a disability, it is-- yeah, yeah.
Of course it's something we've thought about somewhat.
- We can arrange for a specific counseling
from the genetic standpoint.
[Joe] - It's certainly something that the doctors
talk about a lot, right.
- IVF and PGD, those are certainly
some options to test the embryo.
[Joe] - You know, I think they see normality as the end goal
and just sort of assuming that, uh,
normality is what any parent would want for their child.
[dog barking]
[Leah] - I really want a child.
I would say that it's probably like the most basic
evolutionary like, thing I've ever felt
of I just want a kid!
I think that every parent has a desire
for their ideal child.
You know, like some people think, "I really want a girl."
But if they have a boy, it's not the end of the world.
So, I have a desire to have a little person,
but if we had an average-sized child,
I think I will still get it on a level
because I understand what it's like to be different
than your family.
- No leaves on the trees yet. - Not yet.
- In a couple of weeks, they'll be there.
This is the forest primeval.
- [laughs] I'm not sure this is quite the forest primeval.
I think there's been a lot of civilization imposed on this.
When I was 27,
my mother died of ovarian cancer.
And my sense of loss about my mother
not having lived long enough to come to a real
and full acceptance was enormous.
My father had seen me go through years
of being alone,
and through a serious depression.
- You can't relive what happened before,
the tragedies that you've had.
The difficulties you've had in growing up are past,
and you're very successful. So feel very blessed.
We don't have everything.
We don't have your mother, but we have a very good life.
[Andrew] - I used to confuse love and acceptance,
and through this whole process, I felt unloved by my parents.
But as I went along, meeting all of these people
and hearing their stories, I found that everyone who
has kids has kids with flaws and problems,
and nobody goes around saying,
"I'd like to turn my kids in for a better model."
You love your children.
It isn't really up to you.
They just have come along and changed you.
[turn blinker on]
[Trevor's Mom] - Every mother in the world would understand
that a mother can't just stop loving a child.
We just didn't see this coming.
[Derrick] - Hey. Renting the truck.
- Derrick Grace.
[Trevor's Dad] - Yeah, Derrick Grace.
- Are you guys moving into a home or apartment or...
- Actually, we moved from here to Texas.
But we left a few things back in the shed,
so we're going to be clearing all of that out.
- Oh God!
- What? [crash]
- Shh...
- Lots and lots of pictures.
There's Trevor. Our undefeated U-12 team.
- Oh, yeah. He still had his braces.
- These are all Trevor. Trevor driving his Jeep.
Here's the journal. There you go.
Take those pages out, and save it.
- Oh, you know, that's all?
- What? - There wasn't too much.
[laughs]
- I think the cops took a lot of the other stuff.
I was at work and I got a call from the sheriff,
and he said, you know, there's been a crime.
He said it was Trevor,
and so I'm thinking there's been some teenage thing.
He's had a wreck. He's vandalized something.
A squad car comes up and the deputy says,
"You're Mr. Reese?" and I said, "Yes."
He says, "Okay, come on. Let's go."
He didn't tell me anything.
It was just like, "Come on, we're gonna go."
We went in,
and that's when they tell me that a child
has been killed and that, um,
you know, that Trevor did it.
And of course, I say, "You've got it all wrong.
I want you to take me to see my son."
But of course, you know, as soon as you see him
that the worst has happened,
and it is not going to be okay.
Trevor got up that morning.
He went out on the trail where we lived,
and he waited until 8-year-old Jackson came by,
and then he slit his throat.
[Trevor's Mom] - Trevor was 16.
The first time I saw him
after I found out, he was shackled,
and in prison stripes.
[sobs] And we couldn't touch him.
He was like, "I don't know why I did this."
- Everybody was trying to figure out, you know,
what went wrong and why--
why would a kid, you know, think like this.
You know, because we raise our kids better that that up here.
- I don't think that there's gonna
be an issue of responsibility.
I think it's gonna be an issue of what is his competency
and his understanding and his mental status.
[Trevor's Dad] - There were three psychiatrists, psychologists
that we payed for, and there were
two psychiatrists from the state.
And they did everything.
Scans and stuff for schizophrenia.
They ran the test for sociopath, psychopath,
the serial killer test.
You know, all those kinda of issues.
I kept thinking that one of those tests was going to say,
you know, here's the ah-ha. But there wasn't.
All they gave us was, "Yeah, your son is broken."
- Some justice tonight for the parents of a murdered
St. Francisville boy.
Trevor Reese will spend the rest of his life behind bars.
[Trevor's Dad] - Trevor pled guilty to murder.
- Today is a very special day. It is Trevor's birthday.
So, what we're going to do is on the count of three,
we're going to sing as loud as we can
"Happy Birthday" to Trevor, okay?
One, two, and three.
[all in unison] - ♪ Happy birthday to you ♪
♪ Happy birthday to you ♪
♪ Happy birthday Dear Trevor ♪
[Trevor's dad] - What was your favorite part of the day?
- Riding Space Mountain.
- All right!
[woman] - Let's give Trevor a nice round of applause, okay?
[clapping]
[Trevor's dad] - All right.
[girl giggling]
[Trevor's Mom] - You literally go back to when they were
in the cradle, and you wonder if you let him cry too long
when you were trying to teach them to sleep.
Should you have breastfed longer?
I mean, you ask every question in the world.
You ask yourself everything,
and you keep coming back to...
...this happened.
And we can't fix it.
[insects chirping]
[panting]
[Trevor's dad] - That first month or two,
I could have run straight on the street hoping to get run over.
[panting]
I thought, well, if I died,
then that would help atone for the other death.
But, uh...
there is no reconciling on this issue.
These is no magic.
There's not a point.
You'll just carry the guilt with you forever.
[ceiling fan whirring]
Whoa, good tackle!
[chatter]
- You should take the trash out.
[Rebecca] - The trash doesn't come today.
- But it's Saturday. It comes on Saturdays.
It doesn't come on Sundays.
- No. It doesn't come Fridays or Saturdays. - It's your turn.
[Trevor's Mom] - We moved to Texas.
[Tyler] - What kind of world are we living in?
[Rebecca] - I don't know--
- Rebecca and Tyler, what are you all doin'?
[Trevor's Mom] Sometimes people ask me if I have children,
and I will say yes,
I have an 18-year-old son in college
and a sophomore in high school.
And I don't mention Trevor.
It's just, you know, a matter of not wanting to get into it,
but not wanting to be dishonest.
- Welcome, welcome! - Hi.
- I'd get up, but I'm trapped! [laughter]
[Trevor's Dad] - When you try to tell somebody,
it just never goes well.
You know, your son killed an 8-year old.
There's nothing redeeming about that,
and therefore, if that has happened in your family,
then there must be something wrong with your family,
your parenting, your whatever.
[indistinct chatter]
[Trevor's Dad] Like, Tyler and Rebecca both said,
neither one of them want to have kids.
Because they don't want... they're afraid.
[Tyler] - I saw it like, tear Mom and Dad apart,
and I don't want to have to deal with that myself.
I don't think I have that in me.
[Rebecca] - Everything with Trevor was like so out of the blue,
and I feel like my parents did everything right,
and then it just happened.
Like, I would be afraid that that would happen to me.
You know, I could work as hard as I could
and love them as much as I could,
and then something would still go wrong.
[operator] - This is a call from an offender
at a Louisiana Department of Correction facility.
- What baby?
- It'd be a volunteer thing or like a part time job?
- I think it would be a next career,
like, somewhere along the way,
I'm going to be too old to teach,
and maybe I should counsel or...
- Are you sure?
There are some pretty old ladies that do that.
- [laughter]
- When does it start? And how long is it?
- It starts this summer.
[operator] - You have one minute left.
- Alright, mom. I'll call tomorrow. Alright?
- I'm gonna leave Dad alone.
I talked to him yesterday and the day before. - Oh yeah. All right. Just...
All right. Love you.
He says your sister's game is tied 1-1 at the half.
- Yay. Love you. - Love you too. Bye-bye.
[operator] - The caller has hung up.
[insects chirping]
[Tyler] - Did you all buy some biscuits or no?
- Biscuits.
[Tyler chuckles]
[Rebecca sighs]
[Rebecca] - There's the chicken.
Can he have chicken scraps?
[all] - No.
[Trevor's Mom] - Yes, you got tender tummy.
[Trevor's Dad] - In these past six years,
I'd say we're much tighter and closer...
[Trevor's Mom] - All right. I'm here. I'm here.
- ...but we're afraid to expect too much.
Because... we've lost so much.
[Trevor's Mom] - There was a time where
I felt like everything was a lie.
Every family vacation picture I would look at,
I felt like, here I was, thinking we were happy,
and you were so miserable.
It just felt like every time you and I laughed together
was a lie.
I was really angry.
I took this picture when I went to see him Saturday.
Isn't that cute?
- That is cute.
When did Trevor get glasses?
[Trevor's Dad] - Um...
- A couple months ago.
[Trevor's Mom] - But...
You love your children.
You don't get to choose to love them, you know.
You love them.
[all singing] - ♪ On the 12th day of Christmas ♪
♪ My true love gave to me ♪
♪ 12 drummers drumming ♪
- ♪ 11 pipers piping ♪
- ♪ 10 lords a-leaping ♪
- ♪ 9 ladies dancing ♪
- ♪ 8 maids a-milking ♪
- ♪ 7 swans a-swimming ♪
- ♪ 6 geese a-laying ♪
- ♪ 5 golden rings ♪
[laughter]
[background singing]
- Hi.
- You look beautiful.
- Oh, thank you.
[Emily] - He still talks a lot about
the loss of his dad.
♪ ♪
When Charles died, Jason nosedived.
Jason was not showering and not shaving,
and not eating properly, and was wondering around town
in the middle of the night, and it was a nightmare.
And um...
I have to, you know, put a whole lot of things
into place about my own mortality.
I've made financial preparations,
arranged for a co-guardian,
but um...
I don't want to think about it.
- You know, when we went to the hospital
and when we saw...
...when we saw him before he died,
in-in my heart, that-that really hurts.
[Emily] - Uh-hm.
Well, the best thing that you can do
is try to remember the best you can...
the good parts, the fun parts,
and the important things that he taught you.
- How do I feel about Elsa in the mix...
just because I have um...
I have a feeling because I have a crush on her,
even though I know she's a fictional character?
- So that's okay. That's all right.
You want to feel very, very attached
and very, very close to somebody
who's not going to leave you.
- I do want to go to that trip to Norway to find out
what's gonna happen.
- Going to Norway is not going to make her any more real.
It's like Santa Claus.
You know, you tell kids, well, Santa Claus comes
and brings presents on Christmas Eve,
and kids believe that.
- I still believe in it.
- Oh, uh-oh!
- In your heart, you know he's coming.
It's a spirit.
- Well...
- I always believe in that. - Okay.
Okay.
♪ ♪
- Sometimes I wish I didn't have Down Syndrome.
I wouldn't gone to college, I would've drove...
...I would've gotten married.
But it's sort of like the movie, It's a Wonderful Life.
What happens if I wasn't born?
I wouldn't have met my roommates.
If I said hello to them it would be as strangers.
We wouldn't be friends. It would be erased.
It would all be erased if I decided
to wish I didn't have Down Syndrome.
[TV audio]
So, um, I may have to... um...
So, I may have to stick to what I have.
- We not having any Splenda but we do have Sweet & Low.
- We can use that.
Careful with this.
Careful with this because of the side effect.
You have to be careful with that.
- What's the side effect?
- Cancer.
[birds chirping] [dogs barking]
- Delicious.
- 19 Years at the same job.
I'm getting old.
[Yaniv] - If you're getting old, I'm getting old, too.
[laughter]
- We-we all are.
- The three of us,
we've made 13 years in this house.
- Big number.
- 13 Years in this house.
We've always found ways to get along.
- Exactly, we always do.
Isn't that right, Jason?
- It's not just how we get along.
It's about, um...
I sort of like lost the word.
What I'm trying to say is that we became...
...we became something.
[Ray] - What?
[Yaniv] - Friends.
- Deeper than that.
[Ray] - How much deeper?
Family? - Family. Thank you, Ray.
[Ray] - That we became a family
because we've been living in this house.
- I think we should be officially a family of friends.
[indistinct]
[Jason] - All for one and one for all.
[Ray] - All for one and one for all.
- Yeah.
[sighs] - Sorry, I'm getting a little emotional.
It's all right. Nothing happening.
[Jason] - Yeah.
♪ ♪
[Doctor] - Hi, Jack. How are you?
You ready? Have a seat right here.
So, remember when you were here last time,
we talked about you were going to do the clear braces.
[Mom] - Okay. - Okay.
[Jack's Dad] - Good job.
[Jack's Mom] - A-I-G-H-T
So, are my teeth always going to be straight?
You'll have a retainer that you'll have to wear
and that will keep them straight.
So yes. As long as you wear your retainer,
your teeth will always be straight.
- Do you have a further question
or does that clarify that?
- [grunting]
- G-I-E...
Girls here.
I-C-O-M-E
[laughter]
Girls, here I come!
[laughter]
[Jack mumbling]
Yeah, man. Girls, watch out!
[all in unison] - He will come again into glory
to judge the living and the dead,
and I look forward to the resurrection of the dead
and the life in the world to come.
Amen.
[preacher softly talking]
[Jack's Dad] - He is not what we thought
he was going to be and he's not like us at all.
This looks great. Can you close your mouth?
That's it. Right there.
Both hands up here. We're gonna scrub. Ready?
[indistinct]
I tell him, "You're not normal,
but that's not so bad.
Normal is pretty average, and you're well above average.
I mean, you are..."
[sighs]
He is uh, he's abnormal in a really good way.
[woman] - T-H-E...
The.
- P-E P-R-E
Okay.
- [moaning]
[computer voice] My best friend is Grant.
He lives the damn autistic life like me.
[acoustic guitar music]
♪ ♪
A Lost Boy plateaus in his autistic mind.
A Real Boy has a future, like anyone else.
The day was awesome 'cause I was with my tribe.
- You holdin' it together?
- Try not to act awkward. - What?
- Try not to act awkward.
- I'm not gonna act awkward. I'm smooth.
[Doctor] - Leah, how tall are you?
- 3' 11" and a half.
[Joe laughing] - The half's real important.
Make sure you get that on there.
- All right. Then we're going to
go right down the hallway to the ultrasound room.
- Now, I know you had one miscarriage in the past.
Do you know how far along you were at that...?
- Seven weeks. - Seven weeks. Okay.
I'm just gonna take a peek here.
[heartbeat]
- Is there a heartbeat?
- That's the heartbeat. Yeah.
[Joe] - That is so amazing.
Look at that fired-up shear.
[light acoustic music]
♪ ♪
Most people don't get a minivan until after
they've had kids.
- [laughter]
That's not why we've got a minivan.
[Joe] - So, we figured that we'd
give you an advanced Christmas present.
So, Mom and Dad, can you open that?
[Joe's Mom] - What's this?
- Is that what I think it is?
[Joe laughing]
[woman] - Is that an ult-?
[all laughing]
[Joe] - Oh!
[crying and laughter]
[Joe's Mom] - I'm so happy!
God bless you!
- Hey, Mom.
[group chatter]
[Joe] I know you can't make anything out there, but...
- There's not much there. - There's not much there yet.
- I can see it. Yeah.
There is the head. There's an arm. There's a leg.
I think I could even see a nose.
- Oh, geez, Mom!
- You think, Ma?
[gentle guitar music]
♪♪
- There's a lot to think about now.
- Yeah. It's gonna be a journey.
[Priest] - I, John, take you, Andrew...
[John] - I, John, take you, Andrew...
[Priest] - To be my lifelong partner.
[John] - To be my lifelong partner.
[Priest] - To have and to hold.
[John] - To have and to hold.
[Priest] - From this day forward.
[John] - From this day forward.
[Andrew's Dad] - All of us, every one of us
has mountains that we have to climb,
and we have to do it.
We have to climb those mountains
if we want our ultimate fulfillment.
And the reason I'm telling you this is because
no one knows better than I do.
Andrew has had his mountains to climb.
Difficult mountains to climb.
I could wish no more for you, Andrew and John,
than a marriage such as I had with Andrew's mother,
only longer.
Thank you.
[applause]
[Andrew] - I think I had grown up with
a sense that there was a right way to be.
- We hereby make our assault on conventional morality!
[cheers and applause]
[Andrew] - Writing the book set me free.
It broke me finally out of that particular narrowness
that had been inscribed in my childhood.
And it gave me the courage to have a family
in a different way from the way I'd imagined growing up.
You have a sword and you have a fishing rod.
That seems very appropriate.
- And I've got a fishing rod with bait on it.
- Oh, what's the bait?
Oh, that little bit of seaweed.
Do you think there are fish in this water?
[George] - Oh, I don't know.
[Andrew] - I don't know either.
George, let's go and put on your pajamas please.
Pajamas, please.
[girl giggling]
George, pajamas.
I tend to find the ecstasy hidden in ordinary joys
because I did not expect those joys to be ordinary to me.
- This is book five, right? - Right.
- The first chapter is called,
"How Shasta Set Out on His Travels."
Chapter 15 is called, "Rabadash the Ridiculous."
- Okay. Shall we start reading the book?
- Yup.
- Would you like me to read it to you?
- Yes. Who is Shasta anyway?
- Well, we'll find out. - I guess we're gonna find out.
- "This is the story of an adventure that happened
in Narnia and Calormen and the lands between them."
[Andrew] John and I have a big, spectacular family.
[group chatter]
John is the biological father of two children
with some lesbian friends in Minneapolis.
[group chatter]
My best friend from college and I decided we'd like to
have a child, and so we have a daughter.
[group chatter]
And then John and I have a son George
who lives with us full-time.
And when we had George, our surrogate was Laura,
the mother of John's two biological children.
So, there are six parents of four children in three states.
[group chatter]
You know, Tolstoy said,
"All happy families are the same.
Every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way."
And I used to think that might be true.
But actually, I think a lot of unhappiness is quite similar,
and that what's remarkable is that all of the different ways
people find to be happy.
♪ ♪
- You ready, Freddy?
[woman] - Louisiana Department of Corrections facility.
[TV] - Hi, buddy.
Jamie stop. Don't walk away from your father.
- Here in reality.
Everyone is different.
Different opinions, tastes, personalities, and beliefs.
[crowd noise]
- [indistinct]
- Cheers!
[Trevor on phone] - Hello.
- Hey, sweetie. - Hello.
- Hey, you've got everybody.
Rebecca and Tyler, and your Dad, and me.
[Tyler] - Hello everybody.
[group chatter]
[Leah] - At each sonogram,
they take measurements of the baby.
- And so, we've been told by the doctors that it's likely
to be average height.
And so, whether it's dwarf or average size,
we're gonna love any child that shows up.
[Leah] - I always like to put a percentage to it.
I would say at least a 40 percent chance
that it's a little person.
- Where did you get that number?
- I just made it up.
[laughs]
[baby cries]
[Doctor] - Here's your little girl.
She was born exactly at 8:30 on the dot.
[Joe's Mom] - As I always predicted.
[laughter]
[Joe's Dad] - You better get used to being held
because she's gonna hold you a lot.
- And spend lots of time together.
[crying] - Hi, little one.
- Being a grandma is wonderful. isn't it?
[sobs] - Yes.
[Joe] - Hi, Hazel.
That's my daughter.
- Yeah.
- I'm still in shock.
[♪ "All the Wine" by The Nationals]
♪ I'm put together beautifully ♪
♪ Big wet bottle in my fists ♪
♪ Big wet rose in my teeth ♪
♪ I'm a perfect piece of ass like every Californian ♪
♪ So tall I take over the street ♪
♪ With high-beams shining on my back ♪
♪ A wingspan unbelievable ♪
♪ I'm a festival I'm a parade ♪
♪ And all the wine is all for me ♪
♪ I'm a birthday candle in a circle of black girls ♪
♪ God is on my side ♪
♪ Cause I'm the child bride ♪
♪ I'm so sorry but the motorcade ♪
♪ Will have to go around me this time ♪
♪ 'Cause God is on my side ♪
♪ And I'm the child bride ♪
♪ And all the wine is all for me ♪
♪ I carry the dollhouse safe on my shoulders ♪
♪ Through the black city ♪
♪ Nightlight's are on in the corners ♪
♪ And everyone's sleeping upstairs ♪
♪ All safe and sound ♪
♪ I won't let the psychos around ♪
♪ All safe and sound ♪
♪ I won't let the psychos around ♪
♪ I'm in a state, I'm in a state ♪
♪ Nothing can touch us, my love ♪
♪ I'm in a state, I'm in a state ♪
♪ Nothing can touch us, my love ♪